Love and Respect
Naturally wives desire to be loved just as husbands desire to be respected. Ephesians 5:33 says "So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." I believe Paul had great insight on these two key elements in a marriage because they are the thread that strengthens a union that is ordained by God.
When you apply God principles in your marriage it creates a healthy balance where you will have no problem loving and respecting one another. Just remember that the wife has to be first in the heart of her king and the husband needs to be the hero that his queen admires and respects.