Do you use sex as a tool to manipulate your spouse into giving you what you want or withhold it as a weapon to get back at your spouse when you're angry? Do you fake headaches when you"re frustrated with your spouse or play tired when you know that you're not? Sounds like the average marriage.
1Cor 7:3-4 says The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife."
These passages of scripture are saying that your body does not belong to you, so it doesn't matter how mad you get, or how tired you are or how frustrated you are, you still have to fulfill your sexual obligations to one another, no is not an option. God created sex to be enjoyed in your marriage, don't see it as a chore, see it as a gift. The marriage bed is undefiled so don't be ashamed to enjoy what God was not ashamed to create.
Take time to cultivate and maintain a healthy and satisfying intimate sexual relationship so that you keep a strong connection with each other. Not only in the bedroom but in all of your life's endeavors. Remember sexual intimacy is food for your relationship, just like the word of God is food for your soul.
Marriage is not only a union between a husband and wife, it is a balancing act that includes your children. It is important to use wisdom when raising your children so that they will grow to be self sufficient, thriving adults. Teach them sound doctrine and walk upright before them, remember they are watching you and will emulate the things that you do. You should never put them in the middle of your disagreements or use them as pawns to get your way. On the other hand you should not allow them to pit one parent against the other one, causing discord in the relationship.
Parenting is not an easy task, therefore you must maintain a healthy relationship and keep the lines of communication open. This will solidify the connection between you and your children through all stages of their growth.
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Naturally wives desire to be loved just as husbands desire to be respected. Ephesians 5:33 says "So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." I believe Paul had great insight on these two key elements in a marriage because they are the thread that strengthens a union that is ordained by God.
When you apply God principles in your marriage it creates a healthy balance where you will have no problem loving and respecting one another. Just remember that the wife has to be first in the heart of her king and the husband needs to be the hero that his queen admires and respects.
How can you build a life together if you don't trust one another? Perhaps the hardest obstacle for maintaining an enduring couple relationship is the ability to be able to establish an enduring trust relationship.
Trust is the main foundation for sustaining a marriage that is built on God's convenant and principles. Understanding your partner's feelings, emotions, ideas as well as validating their importance in the relationship can erase any doubt or insecurities within themselves and the marriage. Always be in tuned to your partners needs, so that you can trust each other enough to work in love, compassion and harmony to achieve whatever the Lord has for you.
Romans 15:13 ESV "May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope."
Some husbands may tend to take the vow of promising to obey to a whole different level. Although being submissive and obeying are a definite correlation to God's order. Don't get it twisted, you are not to be controlling or think you can rule over your wife. She is not your slave, she is your partner. Your wife should be allowed to have her own thoughts and opinions, therefore you should always respect what she brings to the marriage.
In a marriage, you are to be submissive one to another, yes husbands that means you too. Wives, being submissive doesn't mean you"re weak or giving up control over the things that you want in the relationship, it means that you are allowing your husband to be the head of the household which is in direct obedience to God. He is to love and respect you as God loves the church.
In Colossians 3:18, Paul wrote, "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord."