Breaking up your family by way of divorce is never good and is an act of breaking God's covenant. In God's eyes marriage is meant to be a lifetime commitment, the bible says "Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate”.
However God knows that since marriage involves two sinful human beings, divorces are going to occur, especially when sin outweighs holiness. The bible also says if there is sexual immorality or unfaithfulness in the marriage, then there is a valid reason for divorce.
Whatever issues you are dealing with in your marriage, seek Godly counsel from a trusted spritual advisor who will not share your business with others. Search the scriptures on what God says about divorce because the word of God can always be trusted.
Malachi 2:16 "For cthe man who does not love his wife but divorces her,10 says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers11 his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and tdo not be faithless.”
Refrain from jealousy in your marriage, although it's natural to be jealous of your spouse when feeling threatened by the loss of losing them or the attention that they may be getting for someone else. If your spouse gives you a reason to be insecure about them or your relationship, then you need to express how you feel in love and get the reassurance that you need in order to rebuild your confidence and trust in them. Sometimes open and honest discussion will put your mind at ease.
Don't let jealousy block you from living your lives as a secure and fulfilled couple. You must learn to control the negative aspects of jealousy and envy and not allow these destructive forces to steal your joy and ruin your marriage.
Proverbs 14:30 "A sound heart is the life of the flesh: but envy the rottenness of the bones."
Intimacy is having an in-depth knowledge of what each others needs are. There's a difference between intimacy and sexual satisfaction. Sexual satisfaction is pleasing your mate physically but intimacy is having a deep affectionate for them which usually satisfies their emotional needs. It is a quality of being comfortable in your skin as you share a warm embrace or a tender kiss.
Sex is a gift from God that is meant to be share between a husband and wife. Intimacy is a gift from your spouse that is meant to be shared through love and understanding. It provides a sense of closeness and builds a bond that can not be broken.
1Peter 3:7 "Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered."
Marriage is a relationship of three; you, your spouse and God. It is important to keep God as the nucleus of your marriage so that there is no question about his divine order and the covenant that unites you. Your spiritual well being will define how you understand one another and what God has ordained for your life together. Without God in your life you run the risk of having a marriage without principles or purpose.
If you invite God to be that third person
in your relationship, it will remain strong, solid and unbreakable.
Ecc 4:12 NLT "A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken."
Remain faithful to your spouse so that your marriage will be able to last a lifetime. A faithful commited spouse is one who is trustworthy, honorable and loaded with integrity. When you stray from the marriage it leaves room for the enemy to divide and conquer. Once trust is broken it takes a while to regain what was lost.
The grass may look greener on the other side, but don't get fooled it may be crab grass. Continue to nurture and care for your own grass and watch and see don't it grow. Meaning your relationship needs tender loving care so that it will blossom into a marriage of longevity and endurance.
Hebrews 13:4 (NLT) "Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery."